Welcome to my first BLOG entry! Having the obsessive-compulsive personality that I do, I have struggled for a while since creating my website to find just the right thing to say for this first entry. I, of course, wanted it to be perfect! Finally I decided to practice what I preach and to just be in the moment and to just start writing and see what happened—so here it is…
I have spent the last two years and particularly the last two months traveling the world: I have had the incredible blessing and luxury of experiencing and getting to know people from Atlanta to Alaska, from Fresno to Frankfurt, from Lewiston to Los Cabos, from Honolulu to Hungary to Hamburg, from Bangkok to Budapest to Berkeley, from Berlin to Barcelona to Big Sur, from Prague to Peru, from Copenhagen to Cologne, from Charlotte to Charlottesville, from Vancouver to Venezuela, from San Francisco to Stuttgart to Sedona to Seattle, from Miami to Munich to Malmö, from Phoenix to Phuket, from Chicago to Chiang Mai, from London to Lima to Lake Titicaca, from Bogata to Birmingham, from Milan to Manila, from Turks and Caicos to Tennessee to Tampa, from Kauai to Cusco to Cary, from San Diego to St. Thomas to Singapore, from New York to New Zealand, from Toronto to Tel Aviv, from Capetown to Cairns, from Iraq to Quepos, from Yosemite to Ibiza to Rio de Janeiro, and from Hilo to Harbin Hot Springs.
I have seen many different sites, heard (and even attempted to speak) many different languages, tasted many different foods, caught whiffs of many different aromas, and touched many different things. I have witnessed vastly different customs and cultures and ways of life. I have noticed stark contrasts in values and philosophies and standards of living. I have been aware of different energies in certain countries and cities and their inhabitants. But there is one thing that I have discovered that is common to us all, one thing that is universal, one thing that exists as a common denominator throughout all peoples and cultures…and that thing is that WE ALL WANT TO LOVE AND BE LOVED.
I have seen time and time again, in so many different ways, how people, whether consciously or unconsciously, try to move beyond the lie that we are all separate, try to once again feel that soul connection between each other and all there is, and try to once again feel at home and safe within their own bodies. Because I am who I am and because I do what I do (and because I have a special affinity for saunas and bathhouses), the way I most commonly see this happening is through SEX. I have witnessed and experienced over and over again the magic of how sexual energy and connection can transcend race and culture and religion and age and physical attributes and gender identity and sexual orientation and just about anything else that usually (in our mind) separates and isolates us. And just for a moment…sometimes just for a nanosecond…there IS NO SEPARATION…and we feel safe and at peace and at home.
And here is the good news: once we experience it (even for a nanosecond), we know that the lie is a lie. We know that we have been sold a bag of goods. We know that there is something far greater and more powerful. Sure our minds will start to (fairly quickly usually) begin to convince us that the lie is still true and we probably will go back to our isolated, separated, shame-filled existence. But the seed has been planted…
So why I am writing about this? (Long pause here for a lot of pondering…) I think first of all it is to say that I have been right all along: IT’S OK TO BE A SLUT. I have explained and rationalized my sexual behavior and promiscuity for years: through failed relationships, through 12 step programs for sexual addiction, through first (and last) date disclaimer conversations, to myself, to my God. And by Goddess, now I know (I really know) that all along I have been searching for the same thing as everyone else. And more importantly, I know how to find it! I always did.
The second (and most relevant and important) reason I am writing about this here is that now that I know this vital piece of Universal Truth, I cannot keep it to myself. I know what I am on this planet to do, and that is to let EVERYONE who will listen (or read) know about this “dirty little secret” that centuries of governments and religions have successfully hidden from the masses. The time has come for us to reclaim our birthright to the very energy that brought us all here, and to learn how to utilize this energy not just to transform our own lives but also to transform and shift the consciousness of this planet. It is not an option. The denial of our sexual energy is at the root of all of our divisions and wars and violence and is at the root of the destruction of our planet. It must end.
Well for someone who didn’t know what to write, that was a melodramatic mouthful. But as much as it contains the usual New Ageisms and clichés, I really believe it—and it is what is at the heart of my work. It is that Vision of a world where we are all experiencing that moment of connection to each other and to Source simultaneously that feeds me and sustains me and makes me long even more for its Manifestation.
How’s that for a first time blogger?
26 responses so far ↓
1 RG // Sep 4, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Dear Ian -
First of all - welcome home. Your travels sounds amazing…but I am personally happy that those that need your work at home will now have it.
I love your first posting…it made my juices flow. Yes…erotic energy as the core of all being…connection….love….and power all come from being sexual beings. We need to adorn ourselves….embrace and love ourselves…and share that energy with the world. I know that you will teach that and so much love.
Send you love,
Your Fan in Riverdale……
2 John // Sep 4, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Namaste Ian–
You are bold and I can’t imagine the steps that got you here, nor the path ahead, but I am proud for you that you walk in this way, and that we all benefit. It would be wonderful to talk someday if you return to the Northeast, specifically at Easton. I will be honored to be kept posted of your journey. With love, John
3 Betty // Sep 4, 2008 at 10:44 pm
that’s a damn good first entry if you ask me! - and i believe you did.
thrilled to see you up and public! and yes, there is a great relief is saying what is true about ourselves and our journeys. always the first step, it seems, and one that must be repeated over and over.
blessings, and i look forward to more.
4 Michael // Sep 5, 2008 at 11:21 am
thank you for verbalizing things i have felt all my life. i will look forward to the experience of meeting you. thanks for your insight. wish you light, and enjoy, always, michael
5 TraceyLynne // Sep 5, 2008 at 2:31 pm
mmhmm.
How nice to feel you in your words.
I too look forward to reading more. Come visit me in my loft in Atlanta… lets swap some travel stories.
xoxo
6 Mati Tryit // Sep 7, 2008 at 10:15 am
you go. so exciting to have been and be a part of this wonderful journey. much love and support, mati
7 Miera // Sep 9, 2008 at 7:08 am
This entire website is gorgeous…..and what else would one expect from such a gorgeous creature like yourself! and thats THE TRUTH too.
My only piece of resistance here..as i breathe …is the way you call yourself a slut. As defined it is “a dirty untidy woman” and the truth of the matter is…that is not who you are! Please consider finding a new title for your expression that has the feel of integrity, the wisdom, the power and the love that you are sharing with the world….
Many blessings to you Ian and may our dance come together again soon.
8 Carol // Sep 13, 2008 at 8:18 am
Thanks so much for giving us all a reminder that we don’t need permission from anyone to just enjoy our natural, sexual BEings!
9 Jim // Sep 14, 2008 at 3:25 pm
Beautiful Ian,
I have been afraid of my sexuality all my life and
therefore, w/ 6 decades of living, still have so many fears and disabilities about sex. When you
say, “I am a slut,” I shout “Awwright!!!”
I guess I’ve been waiting to hear that from someone I love and respect all my life. Yes. No
fears; just liberation.
10 Stu // Sep 14, 2008 at 6:46 pm
Yes, thank you Ian. We will meet as aspects of the same Oneness. Your eloquence and intelligence (and lack of misspelled words) helps me to feel good and safe, and of course your background as an MD. Of course, this is largely due to my programming and brainwashing, but…
Perhaps we will host you here at our temple in NE San Diego County. PEACE and LOVE!!!
11 Margaret // Sep 17, 2008 at 8:53 pm
Keep sharing your authenticity my dear Ian. Your strength, vulnerability, audacity…and bodaciousness shine through. Interesting how many of us have made life more difficult than it really is…breath, love and be loved…simple.
So be a slut, be whatever…but just be.
Much Love to you!
12 Steve // Oct 19, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Ian,
Thank you for opening your heart and being vulnerable. You are a gift and I am honored to have received the blessings of that gift. I look forward to reading and sharing here.
With Love and Lust. Steve
13 Kaleolani Spencer // Oct 21, 2008 at 9:43 am
Aloha e Ian,
Your gentleness and movement are welcome. I look forward to the time we get to meet.
Aloha Nui
na Kaleolani
14 Toby // Oct 22, 2008 at 7:34 pm
For some of us that are new to this, your words have opened up a new world. A world of exploration, of experience, of touch, of smell and of sensation. A rebirth, a spiritual growth and a release of sexual energy and the powers that we have hidden within. I look forward to feeling your touch, experiencing your smell and releasing my sexual energy with you. I look forward to scheduling an appointment and feeling the things you describe, the energy, the touch, the release and most of all your LOVE.
15 P-Coq // Nov 23, 2008 at 10:05 pm
just got your info from a new sweet friend, Max…he insists we should know each other… your blog entry is a revelation…and sounds like from my own lips..i believe there is a global wave of consciousness that you express very well, and which many of us are a part…and i newly celebrate my own slutdom..though i have a friend who calls it “being friendly”…i look forward to your presence
Phillipe
16 Avi // Nov 27, 2008 at 2:00 pm
the time must end for the repression of our sexual energy. pluto is moving into capricorn and we’ll have a shifting toward balance. movies like MILK will inspire and remind us how far we’ve come. healers and empowering individuals like our Ian shall be our conduits and mediums. namaste. peace. salaam shalom. avi
17 GreginLA // Nov 30, 2008 at 10:00 am
Funny how what we are walking into feels like a coming home to ourselves. It is sad that those who fear this fearlessness call it “shameless”. Thanks for doing such good ice-breaking with this site.
18 Louis H. Rodriguez // Dec 14, 2008 at 8:48 pm
Ian, BH sent me to your site…Awesome HOT.
19 Eli // Feb 18, 2009 at 12:39 pm
You are opening many people to new possibilities. Many blessings on the work you are doing.
20 EveLynn // Mar 12, 2009 at 2:05 pm
I have three things to say to you:
1. You are the most “ethicial” Slut I know and it takes one to know one.
2. I am so blessed to LOVE YOU AND TO BE LOVED BY YOU.
3. I am so honored to have you in my life.
With the mostest love and light ever!!
EveLynn
21 Frank // Mar 12, 2009 at 5:37 pm
You are not a slut, Ian - you/we/all of us are/can be Erotically Generous. Blessings, Namaste, Om Shanti, Frank
22 Dan // Mar 13, 2009 at 7:01 am
Ian,
You and your sharing are far too beautiful—I cried as I read ” TheVirgin Blogger”—our professional journeys are similar, as you know, and experiencing my true sexuality for the first time was the highest moment of my life. Please continue to share, as others have expressed. I yearn to be in to be in your presence and feel the touch of your hands and feel your spiritual and sexual energy.
23 EL-T // Mar 13, 2009 at 1:49 pm
You are so awsome as a friend and teacher. Thanks for opening the door to sacred sexuality in my life. The Universe has presented itself as a part of me in more ways than I ever dreamed. I am as much a part of the stars as my heart is a part of me. The world of spirit lifts the veil just a little more every day. I am truly born again….
24 Avi // Mar 16, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Ian of the garden, Thank you for leading me to your latest blog entry. Very inspiring and humbling. You HAVE travelled a long road and yet, your learning to give is only opening a whole new network of roads yet to be travelled. Thank you for a life altering session. Like a bee that drinks the nectar and transfers pollen in the process, you pollinate bliss to all who are in your presence. Peace and joy my friend. I’m blessed that our paths have crossed. Avi
25 kirk // Jul 14, 2009 at 7:29 pm
You speak the Truth. I am soooo grateful to find out that I am not alone. My father use to say, ” it’s not what you know, it’s who you know “… I would add to that ” it’s who wants to fuck you ” that gets things moving on this planet… it’s CONNECTION.
How we use that movement to connect, that life force… is a learning in itself… and sadly lacking as a form of initiation and education. The longing is usually hidden deep inside ourselves… aching to be seen and accepted, explored and celebrated.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your courage to find your truth… so I and others can be free to do the same.
I send you much love… and gratitude, and look forward to the day I can say so in person.
The Sexual Cowboy
26 Reformed Southern Gentleman // Feb 2, 2010 at 4:17 pm
Virgin Blogger, As a self-identified “sex addict,” on
my way to yet another 12 step group, I want to tell you that your thinking and writing have opened me and given me one more step
on the road to liberation, a road less travelled
by so many of us for so long.
Thank you,
Reformed Southern Gentleman
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